5 Top Tips for Tantrums
We’ve all seen experienced them and we’ve got the battle scars to prove it. I’ve lost count of the amount of times George has thrown himself on the floor after being refused an ice-cream or some other injustice. I know that there’s nothing I can do to change his personality (and I wouldn’t if I could), but there are some pitfalls that I’ve learned to watch out for:
1. Count to ten
Unless your darling is in immediate danger then take the opportunity to assess the situation. When I say the first thing that comes to my mind it’s likely to escalate the situation, and prolong the pain.
2. Ignorance is bliss
Giving George attention because he’s thrown himself on the ground shows him that tantrums are a good way to get my attention, and re-enforces his behaviour. Ignore, ignore, ignore!
3. Indoor voices
Whilst shouting at your darling might get a shocked silence once or twice, it will soon wear off. When I decide George is calm enough to talk, then I try to remember to use a controlled tone so that he will have to pause and listen to me in order to hear what I’m saying.
4. Don’t dwell
I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve seen a tantrum end, only for a bewildered parent to try and explain why they were right and their little darling was wrong. Starting a discussion about why we’re not stopping for ice-creams five minutes before lunch, will only remind George what he’s missed out on and likely start things off again.
5. Prior planning prevents poor parenting
Afterwards have a quick think about the situation that led up to the tantrum. Was your darling more hungry or tired than you realised? Is there a different route through the park that doesn’t take them past an ice cream van?
Tantrums are an unavoidable part of parenthood, and there’s no single cause or remedy for them. With experience all these things now start to come to me more naturally and sometimes George realises now that he’s more likely to get attention by staying on his feet.
What other great tactics do you use for calming your little darlings?